The resources in this section give you a starting point to explore some of the methods I use in my therapy practice. Please note that self help books and websites provide useful information, but they are not tailored to your specific situation and do not replace the individual treatment that a therapist can provide for you, especially with healing trauma and long standing problems.

Treatment modalities: Self help

Adverse childhood events

  • Jackson N., Donna. (2014). Childhood disrupted: How your biography becomes your biology and how you can heal. Atria.
  • Perry, B. D. & Winfrey, Oprah (2021).  What happened to you?  Conversations on trauma, resilience, and healing.  Flatiron Books.
  • Muller, R. T.  (2018).  Trauma and the struggle to open up: From avoidance to recovery and growth.  Norton.
  • Wolynn, M.  (2016).  It didn’t start with you: How inherited family trauma shapes who we are and how to end the cycle.  Penguin.
  • Gonzalez, A.  (2018).  It’s not me: Understanding complex trauma, attachment and dissociation.  


  • Shapiro, F. (2012). Getting past your past: Take control of your life with self-help techniques from EMDR therapy. Rodale.
  • Carvalho, E. R. (2012).  Healing the folks who live inside: How EMDR can heal our inner gallery of roles. 

Schema therapy

  • Gitta, J., van Genderen, H., & Seebauer, L. (2015). Breaking negative thinking patterns: A schema therapy self-help and support book. Wiley Blackwell.
  • Young, J. E., & Klosko, J. S. (1993). Reinventing your life: How to break free from negative life patterns and feel good again. Penguin.

Internal Family Systems

  • Schwartz, R. C.  (2021).  No bad parts: Healing trauma & restoring wholeness with the Internal Family Systems model.  Sounds True.
  • Holmes, T.  (2007).  Parts Work: An illustrated guide to your inner life.  Winged Heart Press.

Compassionate focused therapy

  • Gilbert, P., & Choden. (2015). Mindful compassion: How the science of compassion can help you understand your emotions, live in the present, and connect deeply with others. New Harbinger.
  • Jinpa, T. (2015). A fearless heart: How the courage to be compassionate can transform our lives. Hudson St Press.
  • Welford, M. (2015). The power of self-compassion: Using compassion-focused therapy to end self-criticism and build self-confidence. New Harbinger.

Positive Psychology

 General Neuroplasticity

Science of attachment (Attachment theory)

  • Levine, A., & Heller, R. (2010). Attached: Identify your attachment style and find your perfect match. Rodale.

Gottman approach to relationships

  • Gottman, J. (1997). Why marriages succeed or fail: And how you can make yours last. Bloomsbury.
  • Gottman, J., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. Three rivers press.
  • Gottmman, J. (2011). The science of trust: Emotional attunement for couples. Norton.


  • Hari, J.  (2018).  Lost connections: Uncovering the real causes of depression and the unexpected solutions.  Bloomsbury.
  • Yapko, M. (2009). Depression is contagious. Freepress.
  • Yapko, M.  (2016).  Keys to unlocking depression.  Yapko Publications
  • Wherenberg, M.  (2010).  The 10 best-ever depression management techniques.  Norton.

Self esteem & Shame

  • Brown, B. (2008). I thought it was just me (but it isn’t): Telling the truth about perfectionism, inadequacy and power. Gotham Books.
  • Brown, B. (2015). Rising strong. Gotham Books.
  • Brown, B.  (2012).  Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent and lead.  Penguin Books.

General Self care

  • Swan, Norman (2021).  So you think you know what’s good for you?  Hachette.
  • Blackburn, E., & Epel, E.  (2017).  The telomere effect: A revolutionary approach to living younger, healthier, longer.  Orion Spring.
  • Rath, T. (2013). Eat move sleep. Missionday.
  • Robinson, D. (1997). Too nice for your own good: How to stop making 9 self-sabotaging mistakes. Hachette.
  • Pennebaker, J. W., & Smyth, J M.  (2016).  Opening up by writing it down: How expressive writing improves health and eases emotional pain.  Guilford